Look at this face. If you think hospice patients and
their caregivers are never this happy, you don’t know jack about hospice care. Whenever
I tell people I’m a hospice volunteer, they usually respond with strong empathy
for the difficult and sad work I must be doing. They also imply that I'm close
to sainthood for accepting such depressing assignments. This always amuses me
because I don’t find hospice volunteering difficult or sad. In fact, most days
are pretty upbeat with challenges that are usually interesting. True service is
always win-win. I’m a regular person doing what millions of people do in their own
ways, and that is volunteer service.
Humor has a lot do with the kinds of interactions my
patients and I share. People say I'm funny, but my terminally ill patients are
often funnier, not only with me, but with others with whom they have contact. A
very engaging patient shared many hilarious stories about her life. Some
days she’d just reminisce and have us both cracking up, especially when she
talked about the bear chasing her in circles around her house in a rural area. A male patient and his three roommates teased one another
so much, it was unlimited laughter every time I visited them at the nursing
home. My hospice patient who could barely speak was the ringleader. Oh, I can’t
forget the two ladies having a pretend fight from their wheelchairs. I still haven't figured out who won, but it was more entertaining than “Saturday Night
Live.” Another patient’s bedside birthday
party with a menu of fried chicken livers, red velvet cake, and ice cream was
another winner! Of course, one birthday balloon read, “It’s a boy!” What? Did my ninety-year-old hospice patient just have a baby?
These are just a few of hundreds of funny hospice stories that
make me grin. If you have been a hospice caregiver, you have probably
accumulated many stories of your own. Humor has health outcomes that can benefit
everyone, including those who are terminally ill and their caregivers. Healthcare workers and
patients should cherish these moments of laughter. Made you smile, didn’t they?
Frances Shani Parker,
Author
Becoming Dead Right: A Hospice Volunteer
in Urban Nursing Homes is available in paperback and e-book
editions in America and other countries at online and offline booksellers.
Beautiful...and a smile. Thank you for sharing!
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