1) Remember why you serve.
There’s a reason you feel
compelled to enhance lives of the terminally ill. Cherish that inspiration.
Move forward committed to an amazing and rewarding healthcare adventure.
2) Believe it’s all win-win.
Providing end-of-life
service is a privilege, not a calling to be a savior. You and those you support
come together in relationships of mutual healing and growth. Honor your win-win
journey.
3) Be present.
By all means, show up. But
be present with patients after you arrive. Evaluate appearances, behaviors,
surroundings, and interactions with others. Listen with your heart. Even
silence speaks. Really try to understand living from their perspectives. Focus
on advocacy for improving their quality of life.
4) Try other doors.
Patients will have
challenges such as dementia that may not respond to your usual front-door
communication. Try other doors and even windows. Obstacles are enrichment
opportunities in your partnerships with patients. Touch, music, pictures,
stories, and fantasies are a few entry points. Let patients help you navigate
your way into their world.
5) Know your piece in the puzzle.
Adherence to rules of
protocol and professional ethics should be routine. Be aware of boundaries such
as confidentiality regarding yourself, your patients, and their loved ones.
Follow guidelines of your hospice organization, and seek help when needed.
6) Untie your knots.
There may be times of
doubt, confusion, sadness, and guilt. These are normal knots of the caregiving
process. Untie them by seeking support for your total well-being. Maintain
proper rest, nutrition, exercise, and balance in your life. Do your best. Don’t
be surprised when you discover reasons to kiss yourself.
7) Spread the word.
Be knowledgeable about
hospice and palliative care. Share information so others can benefit from these
specialized areas of healthcare. Encourage involvement in hospice and
palliative care career and service activities.
8) Pick up a turtle.
If you see a turtle sitting
on a fence post, you know somebody helped to put it there. Be on the lookout
for turtles aiming for fence posts. Be a role model for other volunteers.
Participate in organizations, conferences, workshops, and discussion groups
where you can share best practices while learning new ideas.
9) Write death
sentences.
Death will come no matter
how often you avoid it or wrestle it to the ground. Have your advance
directives, finances, and property in legal order. Urge others to do the same.
Don’t burden loved ones later with important decisions you can record now. As you
unfasten yourself from this life, be satisfied knowing your death sentences
will be carried out according to your wishes.
10) Expect rainbow
smiles.
Rainbow smiles hug you so
tightly you can feel ribs of joy press against your essence. Hospice volunteering
provides ongoing moments for you to positively impact lives. When you make
those connections happen, rainbow smiles will come.
© Frances
Shani Parker
You can read about my personal journey in becoming a hospice volunteer without realizing I was one here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/hospice-volunteer-me-frances-shani-parker?trk=mp-author-card
Frances Shani Parker,
Author
Becoming Dead Right: A Hospice Volunteer
in Urban Nursing Homes is available in paperback and e-book
editions in America and other countries at online and offline booksellers.
Two lines really struck me: "Even silence speaks." That is such a powerful statement. I also liked the notion of a turtle on a fence post, which is a position we sometimes find ourselves in. Good stuff! I am visiting some patients tonight after work. I'll keep these in mind. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteThanks for your insightful comments. I wish you every flavor of success!
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