Frances Shani Parker, eldercare consultant and Detroit, Michigan author of Becoming Dead Right: A Hospice Volunteer in Urban Nursing Homes, writes this blog. Topics include eldercare, hospice, nursing homes, caregiving, dementia, death, bereavement, and older adults in general. News, practices, research, poems, stories, interviews, and videos are used often. In the top right column, you can search for various topics of interest to you. You can also subscribe to this blog or follow it by email.
Older Adult Abuse From Family Caregivers (Daughter’s Video 2:52)
Do people realize the full
impact of statements they make about what they would
never do, particularly when they are judging others? Many things people said
they would never do, regrettably, they have done. This brings up the topic of
older adult abuse by caregiving family members. More and more cases are being
reported. This abuse can be physical, psychological, and exploitative. It often
occurs in shared living situations with caregivers.
Everyone has a breaking point,
a moral boundary that must not be crossed. Caregivers overwhelmed with
depression, guilt, anger, and other stressors may have difficulty not crossing
over this boundary, even when they know they shouldn’t. This is one reason why
caregivers must always be mindful of taking care of and monitoring themselves.
Assistance from others is not only helpful, but also mandatory to prevent abuse
from happening. Healthcare workers can help with these needs and refer
caregivers to other resources.
Caregivers need respite
time away from patients to share their experiences, gain information
from others, and relieve stress. They need programs that save time and make
them feel that they are cared about. They need others to be their caregivers by
temporarily relieving their burdens, sharing an uplifting activity, being good
listeners, and providing encouragement.
What can happen when family
caregivers reach their breaking point and cross over? In this video titled Breaking
Point, a formerly abusive daughter shares
her frightening experience of abuse toward her mother and how she changed: