Sunday, February 23, 2014

Deathbed Paranormal Communications (Nurse Research, Story)

Deathbed communications refer to paranormal experiences that may occur with people who are dying and people who are with them. Although this phenomenon has only been scientifically researched in recent years, it has been noted in many cultures around the world for centuries. Hospice staff members have often shared paranormal phenomenon near the time of patients’ deaths.

Have you had the experience of witnessing deathbed communications with someone during the month before that person died? How did these communications make you or the dying person feel? Did they make the dying process better? These are the kinds of answers researchers on deathbed communications sought in a study focused on determining the incidence of these communications during the 30 days before death and their impact on the dying process. 

The study included analyses of 60 hospice chart audits and 75 survey responses by hospice nurses in America. Overall, 89% of the hospice nurses reported patients who experienced deathbed communications and a peaceful and calm death. However, only 40.5% reported a peaceful and calm death without deathbed communications. Apparently, deathbed communications do have a positive impact on the dying process, but they are underreported in patient records and underdescribed in textbooks.

The following is a true deathbed experience that my hospice patient shared with me about an unusual trip she said she had taken that day:

(Excerpt from Becoming Dead Right: A Hospice Volunteer in Urban Nursing Homes)

“What did you do today?” I asked Rose after feeding her.

“Me? I’ve been spending time with my people. I enjoyed myself a lot.”

“Hey, that’s great. Did your relatives drive in from Chicago?”

“No, I went to heaven. It’s the nicest place, all clean and bright with beautiful places everywhere. I saw my family and plenty of my friends. They all wore long white gowns.”

“Wow! I guess that’s a place you’ll want to visit again.”

“Oh, I’ll definitely be going back. I’m planning to go stay there when I die. I’ll see if I can help you get in, too.”

“Thanks. I would really appreciate that.”

“How old did you tell me I was?”

“You’re ninety-nine, and you’ll be a hundred years old on your next birthday.”

“A hundred years old is too old. I don’t think I want to be that old.”

“There are three other ladies in this nursing home who are older than that. One is a hundred three. We talked to her last week during your wheelchair ride.”

“How much longer will it be before I make a hundred? I don’t know if I want to wait too much longer.”

“It’s only one more month. I remember you said you had spiritual talks with your minister. If you decide to wait, I’ll get you a big balloon that looks like a birthday cake.”

“I guess I could wait. Yes, I think I will wait. That way I can celebrate my hundredth birthday. When I do get to heaven, I can tell everybody I lived to be one hundred.”

And that’s exactly what she did.

Frances Shani Parker, Author
Becoming Dead Right: A Hospice Volunteer in Urban Nursing Homes is available in paperback and e-book editions in America and other countries at online and offline booksellers.


  1. Replies
    1. Thanks, Katy. I'm thinking about living to be 100 myself.

  2. I have been a Health Care Aide for seventeen years. During this time, I have sat and listened to a few elderly residents who have since passed on, tell me about a visit they received from a small child in a pink dress. And It was always in the same room. I find this fascinating.

  3. Teresa, that is fascinating and does make one think hmmm.

  4. I have had 4 experiences regarding close family members/friends that indicate that there is a transition before and at the moment of death. One individual was conscious and called family members into the room "Going, going" in a very peaceful voice. We held her hands and she passed peacefully - a few days before she was reaching upward and said " what is that?, I can't reach it" she was on a minimal dose of morphine. Another situation, I told a good friend, as she was in a coma state within 3 days of her passing, "I will try to be with you when you leave." The night she passed I sat straight up in bed and looked at the clock (1:42 am)- I thought I heard a voice say " now". I checked with her family the next morning and they mentioned the hospice nurses found her at about 2:00 am. A similar experience happened with another family member where I woke up looked at my bedroom door and it was opened. I looked at the clock again noting the time, then looked back at the door... it was closed. Time of passing again confirmed. Another situation was with another family member who spent the last 2 weeks speaking about God and had me write notes of "reconciliation" with estranged friends. I called his friends when I realized his breathing and pulse were slowing. As they arrived they came over and told him they were there. When I noticed his breathing really getting shallow I told him " I will talk with you until you get to where you need to go". Soon after, he shed a single tear and then stopped breathing very gently. I am convinced this happens, we just may not see it or sense it all the time....

    1. Thank you for sharing those interesting experiences, Kari.

  5. This is the reference for the research study.

    The incidence of deathbed communications and their impact on the dying process.
    Am J Hosp Palliat Care. 2013; 30(7):632-9 (ISSN: 1938-2715)

    Lawrence M; Repede E

    1. Thanks. Note the reference link given in the second paragraph, third and fourth lines of the post: "researchers on deathbed communications."